Some explanations

Hi there everyone and a warm hello to Kath1975 who just started following. Thanks for stopping by and I hope you will find what you are looking for.

As there have been more followers lately which I am very grateful for and as I am occupied a lot with therapy and get used to my internal changes I have started to reblog some of my old posts. They are still acute and I have some trouble to create new content. So please bear with me til I am through this ~ then I can go on stronger and with new things to write about.

But I would like to put your attention to some of the sites that accompany this blog. There are some themes or things that are important to me: partners of survivors for example. With that I do not only mean partner as in a relationship but also friends and family. Everyone who helps a survivor but also just is interested in what to do when someone deals with abuse finds information here:

“Links for partners” shows some links to organisations and pages which are for the people around survivors to give them some help and support.

“Male survivors” just seem to realise that survivors are not only female and abusers are not only male. As the myth goes a boy can not be abused they still often are not believed which makes things very difficult. But there are pages and organisations out there which are specialised for male survivors and you find some of the links here: “Male Survivors“.

I thought for a long time that abuse is such a taboo that no artist would dare to deal with it creatively. But one day I looked it up and realised that especially musicians often have written songs about the problem. As music often helps in healing I did a series about “Songs about abuse” and put the pages I found them on on the page “Songs about abuse and healing“.

This online community of survivors and thrivers make us so much stronger. Reading other survivors blogs has helped me so much that I wanted to share them with all of you. It is sometimes hard to find the good ones in the mass of links you can find on google or other search sites. That is why I created “Blogs from survivors” to share my favourites.

Of course there are some more pages for you to visit but I leave them for you to explore : If you have any suggestions for any of my pages on this blog please feel free to contact me on @ASpiritOfHealin on Twitter or in a comment on my blog and I will add.

Thank you so much for following and supporting ~ May you all be blessed!

getting a bigger picture

Today someone told me that her ex had abused her granddaughter. He is in prison for it but she showed how her guilt affects her life now a days. She has trouble to trust men and prefers not to have a relationship.Me as a survivor I was mainly occupied with how much it affected my life. I did realise that it is hard for my partners as well but I never thought about other people who have to do with it. I never thought that the guilt of not having done something and not knowing can affect someone’s life so deeply. Actually what I have experienced is that my family never believed me any way. It is friends and people who are survivors too who helped me and gave me strength. My image of people in the surrounding of abuse is that they do not want to see and let you down as soon as you disclose.

But there are those others too the ones who take responsibility and I get a feeling that they suffer as much as a survivor.