Today someone told me that her ex had abused her granddaughter. He is in prison for it but she showed how her guilt affects her life now a days. She has trouble to trust men and prefers not to have a relationship.Me as a survivor I was mainly occupied with how much it affected my life. I did realise that it is hard for my partners as well but I never thought about other people who have to do with it. I never thought that the guilt of not having done something and not knowing can affect someone’s life so deeply. Actually what I have experienced is that my family never believed me any way. It is friends and people who are survivors too who helped me and gave me strength. My image of people in the surrounding of abuse is that they do not want to see and let you down as soon as you disclose.
But there are those others too the ones who take responsibility and I get a feeling that they suffer as much as a survivor.
