Some explanations

Hi there everyone and a warm hello to Kath1975 who just started following. Thanks for stopping by and I hope you will find what you are looking for.

As there have been more followers lately which I am very grateful for and as I am occupied a lot with therapy and get used to my internal changes I have started to reblog some of my old posts. They are still acute and I have some trouble to create new content. So please bear with me til I am through this ~ then I can go on stronger and with new things to write about.

But I would like to put your attention to some of the sites that accompany this blog. There are some themes or things that are important to me: partners of survivors for example. With that I do not only mean partner as in a relationship but also friends and family. Everyone who helps a survivor but also just is interested in what to do when someone deals with abuse finds information here:

“Links for partners” shows some links to organisations and pages which are for the people around survivors to give them some help and support.

“Male survivors” just seem to realise that survivors are not only female and abusers are not only male. As the myth goes a boy can not be abused they still often are not believed which makes things very difficult. But there are pages and organisations out there which are specialised for male survivors and you find some of the links here: “Male Survivors“.

I thought for a long time that abuse is such a taboo that no artist would dare to deal with it creatively. But one day I looked it up and realised that especially musicians often have written songs about the problem. As music often helps in healing I did a series about “Songs about abuse” and put the pages I found them on on the page “Songs about abuse and healing“.

This online community of survivors and thrivers make us so much stronger. Reading other survivors blogs has helped me so much that I wanted to share them with all of you. It is sometimes hard to find the good ones in the mass of links you can find on google or other search sites. That is why I created “Blogs from survivors” to share my favourites.

Of course there are some more pages for you to visit but I leave them for you to explore : If you have any suggestions for any of my pages on this blog please feel free to contact me on @ASpiritOfHealin on Twitter or in a comment on my blog and I will add.

Thank you so much for following and supporting ~ May you all be blessed!

There was a tweet from …..

……. BraveKidsVoices which said:” Children who are told not to speak up will grow up to be adults who are afraid to speak up.” and I started to wonder if I have been told not to speak up and how it affects me nowadays. 


I can remember that my father often told me “What happens in the house stays in the house!” meaning I should not tell anything that happened at home to someone else. When I got older and had suppressed the memory of what happened I often wondered why he said that. To me it seemed like nothing especial happened in our home.


But now I know why he said that because if I would have said to anyone what he was doing he would have ended up in prison. I wish I would have known as a child!


Well I have problems to speak up! I have problems to stand up for myself. I must have told someone and they have not listened. How cruel is that? And how much does it affect my life still. 


I am sad!

9 days since my last entry

wow can’t believe it is 9 days since my last entry. Seems life is busy for me. Well …..I came across a great project in Germany for survivors from survivors. Unfortunately their homepage is only in German but they are translating it into English so soon I can offer you the English version.

So what is it all about?

It is about a writing project for survivors of abuse that Petra Pauls founded about 7 years ago. She was founding a publishing called Lumen which has changed into a author’s projekt now called Edition Lumen. It is now a non-profit project that helps authors to publish their books in e-format and the money goes to several people in need. For example a family who’s sons were abused.

The old Lumen published a book series called “Bittere Traenen”  which means “bitter tears”. Survivors of abuse were enabled to write about their experiences of abuse but also about the healing process. They also published paintings, sculptures ect in the books. General practicioners and therapists supported the authors which made the writing process a healing experience for them.

I have been reading a few of them and man is there a creative potential in the horrendous experiences survivors have made. This just adds to all the great blogs I am following by other survivors and it gives me hope that we can change the tragedy in our lives into something good and hopeful.

Why do I write about it? The more I am healing and the more I am reading the more I realise how important connecting to other survivors is. One of the greatest problems a survivor has to deal with is that feeling of utter loneliness. You have the feeling it is only you who experiences this, only you are mad or going crazy. But you are not. Talking about all these great blogs, projects and people makes more and more aware that they are not alone and that they can get out of that dark place they are thrown in. That is how we win over abusers and how we can start stopping it!!!!!!! That’s what I want to fight for!

As soon as the English Version is online I’ll let you know.

 

Just found the blog of blooming lotus

and what i read so far is very helpfull because it says how it is. It is not only that:” oh yes we thirve….!” kind of thing. But be carefull there is stuff that triggers so if your feeling gives you a warning. Listen to it. It never fails….